Giving Your Kids the Gift of “Calm”
“It’s all about finding the calm in the chaos." ~Donna Karan
In the busyness of our daily lives, calm seems to elude us. As we witness the chaos in today’s world, calm seems foreign to us. Our nervous systems are on overload. And reactivity seems to be the norm. We observe individuals crying out--- wanting to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Yet, as their voice gets louder, their true essence seems to diminish.
As parents, it’s easy to react to your children when not aware. You may react to their behavior rather than respond to them as individuals. If you see this pattern in your interaction with your child, be gentle with yourself. You are human and probably overwhelmed with the pressures of everyday life. What often gets lost in the overwhelming state of “busyness”, is connection. Connection with yourself and your children. While focusing focus on your daily agenda (Did you do your homework? It’s time to take a bath. Don’t forget to clean up your room!), it’s easy to miss seeing your child for the unique beautiful being they are.
There are very subtle, simple ways you can connect with your child on their level.
My sons are now in their twenties, I woke up this morning with vivid memories of playing video games with them.
Video games were not my most favorite thing to do, but the time we spent together is priceless.
Since the time they were allowed to play video games was regulated, it was special. Video game time was monitored. My husband and I made sure they spent time on other things such as creative play, reading, board games, homework and their nightly routine.
I always found a way to join in their fun on their level.
When they were younger. I would read them a bedtime story every night, sometimes several books at a time.
More times than not this special time right before bed turned into great discussions of wonder and sharing. As they got older they would read to me.
I was always on the look out for ways I could join them at their level.
One of the ways was with video games. Luckily the games they had then were not at the difficulty level the games are of today. I would be left in the dust!!
Back in the day, I could take on the common enemy in Contra, bounce Mario around or fly with Star Fox.
Spending some quality time playing together opened up doorways of conversation. The roles of child and parent temporarily melted away as we joined in unison of having fun.
I recently watched a show on Netflix called Inn Saei: The Power Of Intuition. I've added their trailer below.
A particular segment on mindfulness in the classroom really resonated with me. I sat watching this show in awe at the articulate conversations the young children were having about their brains, the different parts of their brains and what each part did. These were young children!
These children not only described the different parts of their own brains but they also could explain how the different parts affected their behaviors.
I bow to the teachers and parents who are making mindfulness training part of their curriculum.
Watching one child in particular on this show was mesmerizing. He could fully articulate how he could take the mindfulness skills he learned in school and apply them at home. One example is how he chose to handle a situation between him and his brother. On one of his birthdays his brother broke some of his gifts. He thought about the reaction he would take. He asked his brother to leave the room to give himself time to cool off and choose his course of action.
When you woke up today, you probably didn’t know you would stumble on a fun and refreshing way to teach your children timeless life lessons – like how to identify and channel their emotions in a responsible and constructive way!
In her uplifting new children’s book, Sad Sally, my good friend and colleague, Colleen Aynn, uses graceful rhymes and illustrations to teach children it’s Ok to cry and show emotions.
Hold On, Toby is a delightful story that takes children on an amusing journey.
The bright and cheery illustrations bring Toby's adventure to life as he experiences the life cycle of the four seasons and learns how to trust the evolution of life.
It brings nature into a real living and breathing process. Your child can connect with nature and look at trees in a whole new light, plus experience life through the eyes of a maple leaf.
You can't help but feel connected!
Review by Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten
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“Our intuition is always giving us signs.” ~ Author Eileen Fisher
We wanted to share with you a few ways you can include intuition in your parenting.
1. Ask your child how a particular situation made them feel.
2. After a bad day at school, ask them to describe it to you so you can help them process their feelings.
3. Show your children how to listen, feel, see, and experience their connections.
In these busy times, we need to make sure to take time out for ourselves. When we are happy, we reflect our happiness outwards to all those around us helping to create a healthier happier world!
1) Before falling asleep each night, think about what you are thankful and grateful for that day. Visualize what you want your following day to look like. You would be amazed at how well this works for creating a calmer more balanced life.
2) Stay as positive as possible. Life has it’s ups and downs but how we handle each situation is important. Positive emotions reflect out to those around you, especially your children. They learn by watching you!
3) Get outside in nature as much as possible. Taking a walk along a river or creek, appreciating the sounds of the birds, savoring the smells of spring in the air. All these things help you feel more connected. If you live in a big city, visit a park or walk into a flower shop and smell all the flowers. Get the kids and your canine companions active with you.
Oh, do we have a treat for you!
Welcome to the world of Susan Andra Lion. Author, Illustrator and Graphic Designer.
How The Trees Got Their Voices is filled with a magic of its own kind. Visually, soul stirring images bring this story to life. The creative spirit of this book immerses the reader into the energy and vibration of the living forest and ecosystem. Susan draws you into her magical world of the living, breathing and caring trees.