If we truly understood the mission of loving another, there would be no hurt, betrayal, pain, etc.
FOR TO TRULY LOVE ANOTHER IS TO LOVE THEM AS THEY ARE, TRUST THEIR JOURNEY AS IS, AND TO HONOR THEIR SPIRIT AS IT SINGS TO THEM.
Instead, when we love another what we really mean is how WE feel when they love US ... this is when all things go awry.
Reciprocal love has the potential to create a harmonious third WE space that truly honors each of the "I's" in it. However, as we all know, very few can contribute to such a truly mutual and shared third-WE-space.On a microscopic level this is why we break up with close friends, divorce with animosity and separate from family. On a macroscopic level, we engage in wars and genocide.
To enter a spiritually-honorable engagement with the other is extremely challenging because most often all we care about is the "I". We care more about CONTROLLING THE OTHER and their feelings towards us THAN TRUE CONNECTIVITY WITH THEIR SPIRIT. Sadly, control often trumps connection.Loving another has NOTHING to do with us...only the other. ~ Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Shared with permission from Dr. Shefali Tsabary's Conscious Parenting Facebook Page.