Jul 21, 2021

Free Flowing Child

Free Flowing Child
~By Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten

(Originally posted on Intentional Conscious Parenting on July 8th, 2010)

All children are spiritual beings that have come to have a human experience. We know each parent wants to have their belief system instilled in their children. We just ask you to allow and not shut off other avenues of exploration for them. Inspired children can think outside of themselves.

What works for you now may not work for your children twenty years from now. No one knows what will be needed in our future. That's why living in the moment is so valuable!

When you are raising a free-flowing child you are brick by brick building their foundation. A foundation is his or her rock! It is what they will rely on, stand on, go to, hold onto whenever it is needed.

Remember your free-flowing child that you are raising will carry their foundation into their adulthood and then begin building their own foundation with their own bricks. You are raising an adult. It is very important to never forget this fact.

These are tools to help form and mold your child's foundation.

Typical Parenting
  • Bedtime
  • Daily baths, hygiene, brushing teeth
  • Teaching them manners
  • Providing a safe environment
  • Parental Supervision
  • Making sure homework is completed
  • Being involved with your child's school
  • Nutrition: Teaching your children healthy eating habits
  • Chores and responsibilities
  • Reading daily with your children
Along with the tools above add these tools to help build a free-flowing child's foundation.

Intentional Conscious Parenting
  • Healthy boundaries
  • Create unstructured and structured time
  • Freedom to play and think
  • Encourage creativity
  • Allow them space where time doesn't exist: allowing them to be in their moment
  • Keep an open mind: Really listen to what they are asking for, needing, seeing, or hearing, or smelling
  • Let them know every day that they matter! Their ideas and who they are matter and that they make a difference.
  • It is important to encourage your child to dream about who and what they want to be even though their visions of who they want to be may change.
  • Demonstrate to your child how to connect with nature and respect the environment
  • Hugs and kisses daily
  • Tell your child every day you love them
  • Playing and having fun with your kids as a family unit creates an unbreakable bond
  • Guide your children daily on how to utilize and nurture their intuition and follow their feelings.

As we always say follow your intuition and live in the moment.

Stacy Toten is a doctor of Metaphysics. She has been a practitioner for over twenty-five years, best-selling author, blogger, children's author, book reviewer, author interviewer, co-author of M.A.S.S. 101 Man Approaching Simple Soulutions, children's behavioral management coach, artist and co-host of The Intentional Conscious Parenting Show. She is happily married for 31 years, she has two Indigo daughters, a cat, and a dog. Her passions are writing, reading, mother earth, swimming in the ocean, movies and sharing her spiritual gifts with the world and working with parents and children.

Carol Lawrence is an energetic practitioner, best-selling author, blogger, artist, children's author, and conscious living product creator. She has been happily married for 35 years, a mother of two grown Indigo sons, very active grandmother to three grandkids, has three chickens, and loves nature, exploring the human mind, spirituality, reading, writing, mother earth, walking around in the forests of Montana and doing her part to make the world a better place.  

Together intuitively Stacy and Carol are fulfilling a calling and a passion to write children's picture books. They provide nurturing tips and encouragement for parents walking an intentional spiritual conscious parenting path by supplying an inviting platform for their established parenting community. 


Visit their website, Intentional Conscious Parenting: http://www.intentionalconsciousparenting.com
Twitter: twitter.com/@intuneparenting

Purchase Stacy's book: M.A.S.S. 101 Man Approaching Simple Soulutions


Sofia's Ideas said...

I absolutely love this post!

My favorite: Let them know every day that they matter! Their ideas and who they are matter and that they make a difference.

We are a homeschooling family with 5 children, so I think many of your ideas are inherent in this lifestyle that we are attempting. However, how do you suppose "typical parents" realistically include some of your "spiritual parenting" ideas into their lifestyles?

We have only been homeschooling for less than a year, but I remember that what you describe as "typical parenting" is exactly what we had time for. That was us! I never felt like I had that time to let them flow freely. But now, because they are with us more, it is much easier to incorporate the time & space needed.

Thank you so much for this post!

Annette said...

This is my philosophy, exactly, but now I can refer to it by a title--free flowing child. You so elegantly and gracefully explain the relationship between establishing healthy boundaries while giving your child an opportunity to explore their own concept of self, identity, and creativity. What a beautiful blog. I am happily following you!

Anonymous said...

Very interesting blog! I look forward to reading your posts!

Following you :)

Carol Lawrence And Stacy Toten said...

Sofia, we are so glad our blog post resonated with you. We agree on your comment because of homeschooling you have more time with your kids. As we both homeschooled. During some of the time when we were unable to homeschool we made a conscious choice to incorporate these parenting techniques. We believe it is a lifestyle that must be chosen to obtain this. We also handpicked very delicately who was aloud to watch our children. Remember for the working parents it's quality time not quantity. We know how hard you work and want to be there. Make your free time count.

Carol Lawrence And Stacy Toten said...

Mommy Spirit, We are so glad you vibrated with our Free flowing child title. We look forward to dialoging with you more. We are so happy you are following us! Enjoy your journey with us.

inadvertent farmer said...

As a mom of 5 with 3 of them grown I cannot tell you how important all of those things are...I especially appreciate the 'connect with nature...' so many of our children are keep sheltered and clean and have not idea how to climb a tree or where 'real' food comes from! Great post, Kim

The Redhead Riter said...

Definitely live in the moment. If you try to plan everything with small children, you miss the spontaneity of unexpected close moments.

Betsy (zen-mama.com) said...

Love the spiritual parenting ideas! I especially like:

Allow them space where time doesn't exist: allowing them to be in their moment
Keep an open mind: Really listen to what they are asking for , needing, seeing, or hearing or smelling

ericka @ alabaster cow said...

thank you for posting this at blogflow!! i am so over the typical parenting i see everywhere. don't get me wrong, there's a time and a place for boundaries and bed time but i believe in raising my daughter to be her own individual human being, not my mini-me. i've actually written about this on my blog before and i'm always worried that someone's going to call me out on it!

Carol Lawrence And Stacy Toten said...

Ladies, Thank you so much for your insightful and wonderful comments. We are glad to see so many parents resonating with intentional parenting. Your children are lucky to have you as parents.

Kate Pantier @ Mommy Monologues said...

One of the things my parents were the best about was letting each of their 5 children be themselves. They knew that we were all different & wanted/needed different things. My mom always said "Different needs for different kids."

Another good thing about them, they let us dream about whatever we wanted to be & never made us feel like we couldn't do it, whether it was be a famous singer or be an astronaut. It was a very cool attitude to have, one that I'm realizing is hard for a lot of parents!

I'm stopping by from blogfrog! Thanks for sharing your favorite link!!!

Unknown said...

Thank you so much for this post! Truly inspiring. I agree one hundred percent with living in the moment and instilling values in children especially those that deal with treating each other right.