Nov 19, 2010

Are You Parenting From The Past?

Are you willing to take a hard look at your parenting skills and the way you discipline your child?

Have you ever thought about where your parenting beliefs come from? The ways we discipline our children have been passed down from grandparents to parents and then to us. Some parenting practices go back several generations. Societal beliefs also shape each decade.

How do you feel about the way you were disciplined as a child?
Have you ever explored these feelings? There is much value in this exploration. 
Are you parenting from the past?

A Successful tool we have used was to grab a piece of paper and pen. Draw a line down the middle of the paper. On top of the page write mom/dad. Write pros' on one side and con's on the other. Now start listing what you liked and didn't like. This is where the intentional Conscious Parenting begins. 

(This is an example, no references to anyone in particular)

By the choices that you make you help shape your child's well being. Choose wisely someday they may quite possible be passing on these beliefs onto your grandchildren. 

Here is a good time to break any chains that need to be broken. It does not matter if you have a baby on the way or if your child is 10 or seventeen. It's never to late to change.

Written by: Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten

Since no other journey is able to evoke more emotional reactivity in us than parenting, to be a parent invites us to treat the reactions our children trigger in us as opportunities for spiritual growth. ~ Shefali Tsabary, PhD

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Happy Child


Camille said...

I think it's so important to take a hard look at your entire life on a regular basis and do this type of exercise. And you're right, it's never too late to change! I discovered the need to alter how I was parenting my daughter just before her 7th birthday. She is not yet 8 and our entire relationship has become richer and healthier. She is a completely different child and I am a completely different mom.

So glad I found your site! Looking forward to being a follower from now on!

Jersey Diva Mom said...

very prfound, very timely. My hubs & I were havign a similar discussion a few days ago. This would be a great exercise for us to each do.
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