Jul 18, 2013

Are You Teaching Your Children The Art Of Forgiveness?

As a follow up to my post last week called Your Worlds Are Merging And Your Children Know It and my latest review of Penney Peirce's newest book Leap Of Perception: The Transforming Power of Your Attention I wanted to touch on the subject of forgiveness.

Penney shares some very powerful information surrounding forgiveness. She begins by sharing a quote from Joan Borysenko, "Forgiveness is not the misguided act of condoning irresponsible, hurtful behavior, Nor is it a superficial turning of the other cheek that leaves us feeling victimized and martyred. Rather, it is the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

This particularly struck a cord within me. I've always found it rather easy to forgive and move on. I'm not one to hold grudges. I know people make mistakes during their human experience. I'm also a Libra and have an innate ability to find the balance in every situation. On the other hand I've been around many who hold on tightly to their unforgiveness, judgments and anger. I've seen it first hand passed on to their children. Children sometimes assume the same limiting beliefs as their parents and take on their parents feelings and judgements as their own.

When a parent is able to come from a higher perspective to analyze and feel out a situation before making condemning judgements they are better able to avoid making rash decisions, speak more clearly and think about their energetic and physical response before they react. When children witness this they are able to look at a situation with awareness, move through the experience, acknowledge how they feel and move back into alignment if needed. Children intuitively learn these tools by watching their parents in action.

When you learn to live and let go- life begins to flow. People who are not a good match for you energetically will move on to someone or something else.  Forgiving someone does not mean you are disregarding what they did, it simply means you are no longer willing to hold onto the negative, stagnant energy that arose from the situation that you are upset about. As quoted by Joan, your are freeing yourself up of contamination.

"Holding a grudge denies the other person -- and you--freedom. When you forgive, you reimagine the situation in a win-win-win way. In your revised reality, the other person acts respectfully and supportively, and you reciprocate. Energy flows and consciousness is not blocked. The other person feels your validation of their true self -- not their fear-based, injurious self --and is better for it." Penney Peirce

Are you teaching your children the art of forgiveness?

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Carol Lawrence is an energetic practitioner, blogger, children's author, social media manager, author interviewer, book reviewer, conscious parenting adviser, virtual book tour planner and co-host of The Intentional Conscious Parenting Show. She has been happily married for twenty-seven years, a mother of two Indigo sons, has several animals and loves nature, exploring the human mind, spirituality, reading, writing, mother earth, walking around in the forests of Montana and doing her part to make the world a better place.


Unknown said...

Well said. I encourage my son to forgive if someone does wrong, and I think it is important to do this throughout your life, otherwise you just end up being angry and blaming others.

Carol Lawrence And Stacy Toten said...

Julie, thanks so much for stopping by. We agree with you. It's important to teach children how to forgive and move on. Angry children who are not taught these skills grow up to be angry adults.