Showing posts with label Parenting Responsively for Connection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parenting Responsively for Connection. Show all posts

Jul 17, 2012

Book Review ~ The Truly Alive Child For Those Who Seek A Grander Vision For Our Children


Divine intervention appears to have been running through author Simon Paul Harrison's veins as he wrote his book. The Truly Alive Child For Those Who Seek A Grander Vision For Our Children is full of so many simplistic, realistic tools and answers for the world to read. 

"An educational system isn't worth a great deal if it teaches young people how to make a living but doesn't teach them how to make a life" Author Unknown

It is perfect timing for such a book to be presented to our world at a time when our education system is at its worst.

"I would urge everyone who wishes to share their passions with children to explore or at least entertain the ideas that we each have a soul that is connected to all things. ~ Simon Paul Harrison ~ The Truly Alive Child

You want break downs? He's got them. You want answers? He's got them. From the soul, to parenting, to education, to nature, to love, to changing our reality for all our children's futures. If your looking to be inspired in your journey of child rearing this is definitely a must read!

"For example, if we want children to grow up experiencing deep peace, it really does not work to continually subject them to images of violence. I am simply making an observation of the outcomes that arise from certain choices and actions." ~ Simon Paul Harrison

Review By: Stacy Toten and Carol Lawrence

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Jun 16, 2011

Parenting Responsively For Connection ~ Book Tour ~ Day 9

Day 9 ~ 
Parenting Responsively For Connection Book Tour

Today we have the great pleasure of being the hosts of the Virtual Book Tour for the E-Book Parenting Responsively for Connection Written by ACPI Parenting Coaches for parents to deal with the most difficult task of maintaining connection with the growing child whose behavior changes and shifts.

Yesterday, the book tour stopped by our wonderful friend Leigh Harris's awesome blog Metaphysical Mom and Dad. Feel free to stop by and read the excerpt, The Intention to Connect.

Visit now if you haven’t had the opportunity to meet all the authors.

In the meantime enjoy this book excerpt written by Alan Carson.

Parents as Leaders

Many parents are familiar with Dr. Dorothy Law Nolte's inspirational poem, 

Children Learn What They Live.  The first few lines begin with:

If children live with criticism, They learn to condemn. 

If children live with hostility, They learn to fight.  

If children live with ridicule, They learn to be shy. 

If children live with shame,They learn to feel guilty.

Regardless of which of the three parenting courses I am facilitating, 
I always begin by emphasizing that parents are leaders. As parent leaders we:
                • Influence our children to do what we want them to do
                • Realize that we cannot influence our children unless we are in a connected                                                    relationship with them.
                • Have a vision
                • Focus on what we want, not what we do not want; we are positive
                • Listen
As a parent, I can most influence my child's self-esteem by realizing that I do shape my child's self-concept and self-worth because my child becomes what I believe she can become. Self-concept refers to all of those traits and abilities that my child believes she possesses. Praise and recognition play a major role in shaping my child's self-concept because I am constantly sending messages to my child. Since kids largely spend the first four years of their lives with us, our children internalize our verbalized observations:
"You are such a hard worker."
"You are a very unselfish friend."
"When something is difficult for you, you really become determined."
"I always enjoy asking for your opinion because you have lots of good ideas."
"You are a very thoughtful girl."
When we see behaviors that concern us, parent leaders focus on what they want:
Instead of saying "You're lazy," they say, "You need to work harder."
Instead of saying, "You won't be able to do that," they say, "If anyone can do it, it is you."
Instead of saying, "Boy, were you lucky," they say, "You worked hard for that."
Instead of saying, "Are you ever going to learn? " they say, "I trust you won't make that mistake again."
Instead of saying, "You are very selfish," they say, "You are a more considerate person than this."
Leaders encourage, motivate, communicate, bring out the best in people and give them hope. I will share with you a true story from my days as a guidance counselor. Mrs. White asked me to help her 7th grade daughter Anna with her schoolwork, as Anna's grades had been on a serious decline. Within two weeks of beginning to work with Anna, Mrs. White emailed me:
                "I think I know what is causing Anna's stress—my mother. She moved into our neighborhood recently and has been giving Anna a hard time ever since. She has been criticizing her—asking her if she is stupid because she forgets things, and asking her if she is on drugs, etc."
                This is not only an example of poor leadership, but also an example of how an influential adult can severely hurt a child's self-concept. How are kids going to believe in themselves if their loved ones don't have faith in them? We want our kids to feel they are very capable and possess a multitude of abilities. They will develop a strong self-concept if we love leaders and role models.
                Parents are also crucial to the formation of their child's self-worth.  Self-worth refers to the extent to which the child sees herself as being worthy— worthy of love, success, friendship, and respect. If we want our children to make good decisions in life, we better instill in them a strong sense of self-worth. As actor Christian Slater said, "It doesn't matter how famous you are if your head is telling you, 'You stink.' All you ever do is try to escape from that."
                A scene from the movie about Johnny Cash's life, Walk the Line, will forever be imprinted in my brain.

Jun 6, 2011

Exciting news! Virtual Book Tour ~ Parenting Responsively for Connection

Hello everyone, we will be participating in a fun filled virtual book tour!

Virtual Book Tour
June 8 – June 21, 2011

Here's the exciting line up of blog hosts. We will be showcasing an article from Parenting Responsively for Connection June 16th. Please visit the blogs listed below each day to learn more about this exciting new book.

6-09-11 - Day 2 –
6-10-11 - Day 3 –
6-14-11 - Day 7 -, (English)  or (Turkish)            
6-17-11 - Day 10 -  (Turkish)
6-18-11 - Day 11 -
6-20-11-  Day 13 –
6-21-11 - Day 14 –

Need to know more? Can't wait for the book tour to begin. Purchase Parenting Responsively for Connection now.

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