Tips On Tantrums By Loren Buckner, LCSW

Tips on Tantrums

Whether the tantrum begins in the supermarket and you feel like everyone's eyes are on you, or you're in the privacy of your home, temper-tantrums are always frustrating, and they're often infuriating. So parents wonder, "What am I supposed to do when my child is having a tantrum?"

I recommend to parents that they stay as calm as possible. Yelling or threatening a child rarely gets them to settle down. When parents lose control, they are matching their child's behavior and this, in all likelihood, will make matters worse.

I've had many parents tell me that they could calm down if only their child wasn't making such an awful scene. Managing this difficult moment, however, rests in parental hands. We can't expect children to be more in control of their emotions than we are of our own.     

So as best as you can, lower your voice and look into your child's eyes. Say things like, "I know you're upset. I know you're mad. You are really really mad. I know. It feels terrible not to get your way. You are so disappointed. I understand." It's always worth it to name and understand your child's feelings. It may not stop this temper-tantrum, but you'll be giving your child tools for later on.

If this doesn't calm things down, though, you'll probably have to stop what you're doing. If you're in a store, consider leaving or at least going out to the car. Parents in a hurry and under pressure to get things done become focused on finishing their errands which, when a child is out of control, isn't going to end well.

      

It's inconvenient and frustrating to walk away from a grocery cart filled with food. But whenever possible, parenting becomes the priority. You want your child to experience the consequences of the tantrum. He/she goes home, to the car, sits in time out, goes to bed early, misses dessert, or TV time.

Giving in to tantrums pretty much guarantees the likelihood of another one, although all parents are guilty, from time to time, of taking this immediate way out. Remember that parenting is a messy business, sometimes the best you can do is muddle through and do better next time. To be thoughtful, purposeful, and unselfish every time a child asks for something is next to impossible.

Unless your child is too young to understand,

Carol And Stacy Interview Children's Author Vicki Scalzo-Savini

Article first published as The Light Inside of Me - An Interview with Author, Vicki Scalzo on Technorati.

1. What inspired you to write The Light Inside Of Me?

     I was inspired to write “The Light Inside of Me,” by a child who had anger issues. A few years ago I was in a situation where one of our elementary schools had asbestos, so they closed the school to remove it and moved our whole school into another building and we all doubled up. I worked with a friend of mine.  Together we had approximately 40 children in the class.  While one of us was teaching, the other would co-teach or prep the next lesson. One of my colleague’s students, named Bryce, was giving her an awful time.  He was very disrespectful and angry in general.  I took a liking to him because I saw that inside that hard shell he pretended to have, he was an amazing kid just looking to be noticed.  I sat down at the desk and wrote a poem titled, “The Light Inside of Me” to do a reader response with the kids. It changed Bryce’s life, my life, and hopefully millions of children in the near future!

2. Where did you get the idea to use children's illustrations?  What a fantastic concept!

     I had this book typed behind my desk for years. For fun, I would have the children illustrate different pages each year.  I never saw this book illustrated by an adult; I always knew it had to be illustrated by children because they have an amazing way of expressing their brilliance. When I finally decided to move forward to publish, there was never a question as to who would illustrate the book. I held an art contest in my elementary school and the rest is history.

    3. When did your deep love for teaching and inspiring children begin?   

Review: Frequency The Power Of Personal Vibration By Penney Peirce

"Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." ~ Harold Whitman

Frequency the Power of Personal Vibration By Penney Pierce 

Book includes free audio downloads to assist you on your journey.

Frequency The Power of Personal Vibration By Penney Peirce is a manual for living an energetically intuned life! Learn how to "feel" your way through life "frequency" by "frequency."

Penney's new book embraces a new way of experiencing life as a vibrational being.

"When you start using senses you've neglected, your reward is to see the world with completely fresh eyes." ~ Barbara Sher

"You might find that heightened empathy--the sense of loving the light within others and feeling connected because of it - helps you know what exactly people need, even before they do" ~ Penney Peirce

What a gift Penney Peirce gives her readers. Instructions on how to "activate your diamond light body." This should be made into a poster. Penney describes your diamond light body, how to step into it, activate it, maintain it and put it to use. This is a priceless gift.

"Transformation literally means going beyond your form." ~ Wayne Dyer

Have you ever wondered how your feeling habits were developed?

An Invitation From Vick Savini

The Infinity Foundation

Presents... The Greatest Love There is a DEFINITE reason why you are instructed to put the oxygen mask on your face first in an aircraft, before you help others, in the event of an emergency... If you can't breathe, you certainly cannot help others! Just for a moment, consider what it takes to create a building in our society... It usually starts with a blueprint of some sort, then the foundation is laid, and the structure is built on top of that foundation.  What would happen to that building if the foundation was not strong, safe, and reliable?  Right!  It would likely pose a danger to society at some point in time.  Imagine that we, as human beings, have a foundation…  Our foundation is laid in childhood,  and truth is, you cannot say, ‘What happens in childhood, stays in childhood,’ but the good news is... It’s never too late to repair and strengthen the foundation you began with.   When you sign up for my new complimentary eBook, you will learn that the first step in building, repairing, or strengthening a foundation is to love yourself. Now, I know that sounds cliché, and you’ve likely heard it several times before, but it is what it is, and learning to love yourself, truly is the greatest love of all!

Pure Presence With Suzy Miller ~ Aligning to Self

Enjoy this rebroadcast of Suzy Miller's radio show "Pure Presence - Aligning to Self with Suzy Miller.

(Suzy Miller is the author of Awesomism, an amazing book about Autism)

"As we become the new humans, humanity is going through a process where we are continually being re-calibrated to the highest aspect of who we really are. Throughout the world, many are now being called to rediscover and reconnect with the potential and possibilities that have been hidden within them for so long. The time has come for a new community of humans who are not afraid to be and continue to become the fullest expression of themselves. If this resonates with you, join Suzy Miller every first and third Friday and participate in a free Pure Presence balance and integration experience."

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Joie de Vivre Tarot Review

Joie de Vivre tarot by Paulina Cassidy

The artwork is uniquely adorable and very detailed.

Each drop of point calls to your imagination.

The written word is just as magnificent, it draws you in and enhances your tarot card reading. Paulina Cassidy the artist and creator of this tarot deck has created a world of magical creatures that reaches out and breaks the sound barrier with her energy and life force. Her card deck  really resonated with us. 

Review By Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten

Find out more about this awesome tarot card deck and other family friendly games at U.S. Games Systems, Inc. 

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PetTalk Conversation Cards Review By Stacy And Carol

PetTalk "conversation" cards for the entire family.

Fun game, no rules!

Pick a card and let's talk.

Cat's Eye Tarot Review

Cat's Eye Tarot By Debra M. Givin, DVM

This tarot card deck comes from a totally different perspective. It comes from a cat's perspective.

"Every card in Cat's Eye Tarot tells a story, illustrated from a feline point of view. The card meanings follow Rider-Waite interpretations, yet even the newcomer to tarot will be able to relate to these delightful images of cats and learn valuable lessons from them."

The intricate detail on each card helps you to unfold your own creative, emotional, earthy and intellectual energy. We feel it is a very grounding tarot card deck. Debra's experience as a vet and her love of cats comes shining through each and every card.

Review By Stacy Toten and Carol Lawrence

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Woodland Wisdom Oracle Cards Review

Woodland Wisdom Oracle Cards By Frances Munro

Illustrated By Peter Pracownik

These channeled oracle cards can be used to help guide and connect you to the ethereal realms and mother earths kingdoms. The informational booklet expresses the positive spiritual messages each oracle card has for you.

These oracle cards will pull you out of your head and put you into your heart. 

The detailed artwork will leave you spellbound!

Review By Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten

Now I Know By Sally Devorgine

Now I Know 
That silly hopes and fears will just make wrinkles on my face.
By Sally Devorgine

Endorsed By The Dali Lama

There's so much more to this book than meets the eye. It encompasses real life situations that happen every day in school and neighborhoods, teaching children how powerful their own thoughts are for creating positive or negative mental chatter. How their perceptions can help them work through their hopes and fears. Now I Know explores developing relationships and developing the self.

We really appreciated the value and importance of "the testing tree."

What a great way to empower children!

The timeless wisdom quoted by Geshe Langri Thangpa (1054-1123 CE), who was a Buddhist master famous in Tibet for his "8 versus of mind" training is still relevant today and a basis for the Chocolate Sauce Series.

Whimsical Tarot Card Review

Whimsical Tarot Cards

Illustrated By Mary Hanson-Roberts

Created By Dorothy Morrison

There are four card spreads appropriate for all different ages. 

A delightful tarot deck based on children's fairy tales, stories, fable and myths, colorful and charming, each card features a full pictorial scene, and is suitable for children and adults.

This tarot card deck is an excellent way to introduce tarot to children. The simplistic card descriptions are easy for children to relate to and connect with their spiritual essence. 

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Review By Carol Lawrence and Stacy Toten

Scientists Prove DNA Can Be Reprogrammed by Words and Frequencies | Wake Up World

We love this! Being huge fans of Bruce Lipton and Dr. Emoto we know it's not too far off before humanity realizes their full potential!

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